Whenever I meet people of unpleasant character or those overwhelmed by negativity, pain or suffering, may I cherish and care for them as if I had found a rare and precious treasure difficult to find.
Another aspect of karma that one needs to think about is the idea of merit. The idea is that when you do good things you accumulate good karma, Buddhists call this ‘merit’. This merit can be cashed in for stuff; although the masters insist you don’t cash in the merit and simply accumulate it for your own enlightenment. So when we meet a real ass hole or a real minger or maybe someone is a real basket case these people are like merit generators. If someone is really horrible to you but you don’t react badly or even better you do nice things for them you will accumulate loads of good karma.I don’t really like to look at it that way, the way I see it is that these people are a great treasure because they help me to see into myself. When we are put on in some way, like when someone is demanding we look after them, or maybe someone is threatening us or just being a pain in the ass our thoughts and emotions manifest strongly. These people are giving us the opportunity to take control of our emotions and thoughts.
You may feel that you are at peace with yourself until you meet a troublesome person. Then you may notice that your adrenal glands are out of your control and anger, fear or jealousy begin to manifest in your mind. With practise one can learn to be patient, to use self-discipline and restraint when dealing with others. These are the skills that keep you with peace.To be with the Buddha nature is the best place to be. To be with pure awareness is to guarantee success in all that you do, If you can remain in a balanced state in the moment you will naturally create skilful actions, or if you like accumulate ‘merit’. Patience, compassion, wisdom, restraint, discipline, generosity and other skilful frames of mind help to keep us with the pure awareness.
In reality we are naturally enlightened. It is our reactions to other people that separate us from our enlightenment. The ego is born because we feel let down by, abandoned by, unloved by, threatened by, jealous of or angry with other people. It is how we treat other people, how we feel and think about others that uncovers or destroys our enlightenment. So difficult people are like great teachers or life coaches showing us how to remain cool in any situation.